Its not easy to know what to do in situations like this while still protecting yourmentalpeace.
This is the situation a woman found herself in because of her controlling and racist mother-in-law.
The lady didnt even spare her owngrandkidsand would bully them despite how young they were.
Even though the poster tried setting boundaries with her husbands mom, nothing seemed to stick.
To understand how to handle such difficult family situations,Bored Pandareached out toTodd Perelmuter.
Todd explained that there are two major issues facing our world right now.
Two, people are cutting off well-meaning and kind family members/friends way too fast.
This couple is clearly in the first category.
We need a sacred space within our home.
Todd Perelmutertold us that it is clear that we also need to have compassion for the mother-in-law.
She is so very clearly troubled and disturbed in many, many ways.
Happy people do not make other peoples lives miserable.
When it comes to a racist family member, boundaries and self-protection are essential.
The mother-in-law has shown that she doesnt respect boundaries, so we must believe what her actions have revealed.
I hope there can be love at least from the couples side.
Todds thoughts on this were that the wife is not being unreasonable.
Perhaps the relationship can reset once tempers have cooled.
But as far as living together or unsupervised visits, it will take some time to rebuild the trust.
Children notice and pick up the subtle feelings of the adults around them.
Time does heal, and hopefully, this fractured connection may slowly become normal again.
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