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Some people just cant seem to read the room.
Its like they have a knack for saying the worst thing at the worst possible time.
Sounds like a modern-day super couple, right?
But heres where things get a little dicey.
During the day, while bothparentswere at work, their daughter was spending her time at daycare.
Meanwhile, dad stepped up and worked an extra day to cover the financial gap.
What a hero, right?
Despite dads extra efforts, mom was still feeling the heat.
And heres where dad mightve stepped on a landmine.
He calmly explained that cutting back his work hours wasnt an option, as they needed the income.
Were guessing that seemed logical to him at that time.
Hiswife, however, didnt seem too thrilled with this housekeeping proposal and became visibly upset.
Dad, thinking he did nothing wrong, asked his coworker for some validation.
Sometimes, old habits die hard, and navigating modern expectations can be trickier than expected.
Researchers have found that the unequal distribution of housework is one of the top stressors in many relationships.
Whats surprising is that many of us arent even aware when were invalidating our partners feelings.
To find out more on this topic,Bored Pandareached out toDr.
Carla Marie Manly, clinical psychologist, podcast host and author ofThe Joy of Imperfect Love.
She told us that emotional validation is basically the foundation of any healthy relationship.
When its there, partners feel noticed, understood, and loved.
It helps them feel closer and more secure with each other.
But when emotional validation is missing, real intimacy and connection just cant grow.
We asked Dr. Manly to name some subtle ways partners might unintentionally invalidate each others feelings.
We wanted to know what strategies couples can use to validate each others feelings during disagreements.
Like any new habit, learning to validate a partners feelings will take time, empathy, and patience.
When a partner forgets to offer emotional validation, its important to allow for re-dos.
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