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Theloss of a parenthurts in ways one cannot imagine.
Thats especially true when you lose a parent at an early age.
But deceased parents still live in the hearts of their adult children.
The other parent, however, might move on.
At least thats what happened to thisbrother and sister, who had anniversaries for their deceased mother.
The biggest one might be that the deceased spouse might never really go away.
Thats especially true when there are children in the picture.
A woman marrying a widower shouldnt aim to replace the deceased wife.
Thats why the healthiest way to deal with it is to avoid comparing and competing with the deceased spouse.
Of course, hearing about what a greatmother and wifeshe was might not be that pleasant.
Experts adviseeducating yourself on grief in these cases.
Just because the dad got married doesnt mean he forgot his deceased wife.
That does not mean that the widower is not committing or not all-in in the marriage.
Moving forward should be about creating new memories together.
Creating new traditions can be a great way to move forward appropriately.
Expecting that the children will simply forget because you hide away pictures is borderline comical.
UK-based non-profit Child Bereavementemphasizesthat stepparents need to respect their childrens emotions.
Talk with them if they want to remember the deceased parent.
Thats why helping children to remember their parents should be a stepparents job.
Perhaps both the stepmother and the father made mistakes here not allowing their children to grieve properly.
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