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Losing aparentcan be life-altering.
You might suddenly find yourself without a support system, and the pain can be overwhelming.
So most of us do everything that we can to honor our lateloved oneand respect their wishes.
Below, youll find the full story that this woman recentlypostedon the Am I the [Jerk]?
It is incredibly common for siblings to argue over an inheritance after a parent passes away.
Katherine noted that many sibling disagreements over inheritance are rooted in decades-long conflicts.
When a parent dies, grief comes out and the gloves come off.
I often see siblings rehashing childhood fights and grievances under the cover of arguing about an inheritance.
As in this story, deep-seated family patterns and histories influence how people feel about who gets whatand why.
We also asked the experts what advice they would give to anyone whos currently in a similar situation.
It isnt your job to help your sibling accept this situation.
They are sharing their reality with you.
Whether or not you agree with their reality, you cant deny that it is how they feel.
The best thing you’re free to do is try not to make the situation worse.
In the post, OP throws the reason her brother didnt inherit back in his face.
Even if thats 100% how you feel, the expert noted.
Allowing the sibling space to express their frustrations and feelings may help diffuse resentment, he shared.
However, they dont owe anyone more than their parents intended to give.
Its not something anyone should have to go through, the expert shared.
Siblings should focus on asking their parents questions about their estate plan and thoughts on inheritance distribution.
And parents should be open to having these discussions with family members to preserve family harmony after theyre gone.
However, its crucial that parents set clear boundaries in these discussionsthese conversations are to inform, not negotiate.
Its wise for parents to provide detailed reasoning for their distributions in writing as well.
And when it comes to choosing an executor, a neutral party is best.
Good planning is as much about passing down peace and understanding as it is about passing down property.
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