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Meeting new people can be hard.
Finding how to get acquainted can be tricky.
There are ways to make this process easier; for example, by thinking about thetopicsyou could talk about.
At the same time, there are ways to make it even more challenging.
Like putting on some kind of persona.
Thats what happened in todays story.
A woman went on a date with a man who wanted to seem mysterious.
Funnily, he miserably failed.
In fact, almost half of Americansthinkdating is harder now than it was 10 years ago.
One of the reasons for this is theparadoxof choice.
It means that the more options you have, the harder it is to choose.
With dating apps and overall online connectivity, it might seem that we have endless choices to meet someone.
And so, it might be tough to choose if you even want to meet anyone.
Theres also stuff like safety.
Gettingcatfished, receiving unwanted explicit photos and many similar things are genuine fears nowadays.
And lets not forget things likeheteronormativesocietal expectations, as well as family and personal ones.
In this piece, were focusing mostly on those personal expectations.
To be more specific, the way they manifest in communicating during dates.
The thing that inspired this topic was TikTok creator@yellerwellersviral video, which currently sits at 4.8M views.
Why we dubbed the man in the story this way is because of the way he acted.
For the first several minutes of thedate, both he and the woman made small talk.
Soon, he interrupted her, because he wanted to talk about meaningful and real stuff instead.
Well, some people indeed tend todislikesmall talk, as it can feel hard for them.
But the woman wasnt planning to let this intimidate her.
She asked him what he wanted to talk about, to give her an example.
This took the man aback.
Then he only said that she should ask him meaningfulquestions, nothing more.
So, she asked for examples again.
He still had nothing.
As it was phrased in the video, he simply put on a persona he couldnt fulfill.
No surprise that the woman stood up and left the date it was unlikely that therelationshipwould go any further.
Luckily, bothwomenwere smarter and were able to rebuff.
So, its no wonder that dating is so hard.
If other factors dont make it difficult enough,peoplego around pulling moves like these.
And thats the best way to waste someones time.
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