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Singer Lizzo penned a deeply enigmatic essay that delved into the trauma of burying ones feelings.
She imposed three rules1.
Dont cry, 2.
Stay neutral; deescalate, and 3.
Dont take anything personal.
This isnt about youfor herself so she could maintain the role of a peacemaker during turbulent times.
Humans tend to collect traumas like pebbles on a long hike.
We toss them into our backpacks and keep moving forward.
Some hikers would falter, but Melissa was built for this.
Shed carried the stones of her familys traumas uphill for years.
She was strong, Lizzo wrote in theessay.
She carried that, she went on to say.
When childhood friends began to cut off the strings of her heart, saying We cant be friends anymore.
When her family separated like dandelion seeds, it seemed like theyd never be together again.
Is my suffering for a high purpose?
Or is my suffering trying to kill me?
She took it personal.
But it wasnt enough.
She wanted to scream in a microphone in a sea of shadowy faces.
She drank whiskey and wove her pain into rock music, Lizzo wrote.
She then went on to list out how Melissa broke the rules that she had made for herself.
So… She broke rule number 1 on stage while singing a beautiful song…, read the essay.
Rule number 2 was broken when she grew older and saw the injustices of the world.
Marching with hundreds in protest she realized not everything needs to be pacified.
And one day when she finally fell in love, she broke rule number 3.
But it was ok. Because in all her resistance she realized breaking rules was her power.
Melissa began to fall for her feelings.
Her feelings gave life purpose.
They werent always logical, as feelings seldom are.
They were sloppy and embarrassing and rude and so fucking uncomfortable.
But they were hers.
And they were real, Lizzo added.
Some fans cheered the singer on and said, Writing is extremely healing
