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Children throw tantrums for various reasons.

Maybe theyre hungry, tired, or overstimulated.

You dont always know what to expect.

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you could only hope theyll keep calm and carry on.

However, the tables turned for one mom.

His mom wasnt quite sure what to say.Bored Pandareached out to renowned clinical psychologist and best-selling authorDr.

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Sheryl Zieglerto ask for her advice.

Ziegler is an expert when it comes to child psychology and parenting.

Her new bookThe Crucial Yearsis being released soon.

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Its an Essential Guide To Mental Health And Modern Puberty In Middle Childhood (Ages 6-12).

But I am going to keep you safe, and we arent going to get involved.

Ziegler adds that its important to normalize the feelings, but not the behavior.

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it’s possible for you to acknowledge that clearly Karen was upset about something.

Maybe it had nothing to do with the table or seat, and definitely nothing that the child did.

Parents should model kindness and emotional regulation, says Ziegler.

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She adds that you should answera young childs questions in a simple way.

For example, Some people have a hard time controlling their anger.

Thats why we practice, when we arent mad, things like deep breathing and using our words.

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So when we are mad, we know what to do other than yell and scream.

Zieglers final tip is to redirect and move on.

You could say something like Lets keep going with our day.

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What should we do next?

The psychologist tells Bored Panda at the end of the day, safety always comes first.

Use these challenges as opportunities to talk and learn and teach.

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Maybe its that person who tried to cut in front of you at thecoffee shop.

Perhaps it was someone who demanded to be seated before you at a busy restaurant without a reservation.

Coffee shop Karen is guilty as charged… on both counts.

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Its the you owe me attitude, explains the writer.

If you happen to be suffering from a bout of entitlement, first, you gotta check yourself.

Everyone is a human being with feelings and struggles of their own.

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Go easy on others.

Be sympathetic to their needs.

Fall down once, get up twice is also a good rule to live by.

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But shame, Cafe Karen.

We feel for you.

According to the Society for Personality and Social Psychology, entitled people dont always have it easy.

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Even when it comes to cute little families…

What.

Check out the results:

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Karen Explodes Over Family Seating At Cafe, Leaves In A Furious Outburst

Karen Explodes Over Family Seating At Cafe, Leaves In A Furious Outburst

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