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Setting boundaries is important, but not always easy; especially when it comes tofamily.
For some people, being strict with those of their kin often proves to be harder than it seems.
Takethis redditor, for instance.
After all, my brother planned a family pool party at my house and didnt invite me.
Well, my brother did that and didnt really see it as a big deal.
He believes he told me multiple times but he didnt.
I saw it as my brother being my typical brother.
Reddit saw it as me being a pushover to my entire family and not setting boundaries.
But it doesnt make my brothers behavior right.
I dont know why my brother felt it was okay to plan something at my house, she continued.
When he lived with me, he would always ask if someone could come over.
Its been two years since he moved out.
He moved in with me during that time as I had the room and he needed to save money.
He has joint custody of his two daughters, who would be over part time.
When he moved, he found a better paying job an hour away so he moved there.
There is a set schedule and they know Im busy so they dont bother me.
When I moved back, I wanted my family to be comfortable in my home.
At first, my parents would randomly stop by, and I put a stop to that pretty quickly.
Now, they call me if they want to come over.
But those small issues easily grow.
And the small issues create a precedent that it is okay.
It reinforces behavior that its okay to break the rules.
And that inviting strangers was a huge issue, the OP told Bored Panda.
My mom and sister both responded quickly saying they understood and would honor that.
My brother never responded.
A few days later, he sent a funny meme.
And today he texted me asking if he could come over tomorrow with his daughters.
But I will be trying.
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