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Going onvacationshould be one of the highlights of your year.
What if he starts crying because he misses his mommy?
What if they feed him something that hes allergic to?
And how can I focus on anything else when Im away from him?
It will vary widely when a child can go on vacation without their primary caregiver.
Lisa pointed out that parenting is a series of decision-making and hoping for the best.
But Lisa noted that most kids are born ready for an experience like this.
I say most because there are always exceptions.
But kids are resilient and curious about the world around them.
The baby is ready, she shared.
It sure sounds like she isnt, Lisa says.
Amy says that communication is key in situations like this.
What specifically is making you uncomfortable?
Are there ways to address it?
If concerns cant be addressed, then its perfectly reasonable to set the boundary and say no.
Lisa also recommends that parents practice saying no.
It is a difficult but necessary life skill.
What Ive learned is that because we are consistent and united with our boundaries, the parents/in-laws respect them.
Theres no pushback anymore.
So practice early and often and together.
My in-laws love suggesting we get together for a BBQ.
Only, heres the fun part: theyre not the ones who own a BBQ.
Sorry, were busy!
How familiar are grandma and grandpa with your childs routine?
Have they spent any time with them alone?
Your concerns are not unreasonable and need to be acknowledged by your partner.
We remind them of the consequences; dysregulation, illness, etc.
Finally, Lisa wants to remind readers that parenting is hard.
There are infinite ways that parents may diverge in opinion.
No throwing each other under the bus.
Work on shared decision-making and mutual respect.
Show the parents that you are a strong unit.
Go to bat for each other.
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