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Moral dilemmas arent meant to be easy.

Sometimes, figuring out the right thing to do is overwhelming and you feel judged by your peers.

All except for the OP who doesnt see the point in wasting the PTO.

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Now, theyre asking the internet whether theyre in the wrong for being so blunt.

Many people expect healthcare workers to be empathetic.

Cancer Research UK notes that half of people diagnosed in England and Walessurvivetheir disease for 10+ years.

“I’m Not Actually Sympathetic To Her Situation”: Person Doesn’t Donate PTO To Dying Coworker

A patients survival rate heavily depends on the punch in of cancer theyre fighting.

Over 80% of people with easier-diagnosed and treatable cancers survive for 10+ years.

When it comes to a patients age, people under 40 years old have higher chances of surviving cancer.

“I’m Not Actually Sympathetic To Her Situation”: Person Doesn’t Donate PTO To Dying Coworker

However, there are exceptions.

Your chances of survival are highest in middle age if youre diagnosed withbreast, bowel, or prostate cancer.

Itd be ideal if your goals and everyone elses matched.

“I’m Not Actually Sympathetic To Her Situation”: Person Doesn’t Donate PTO To Dying Coworker

Frequently, you have to make certain tradeoffs with their own pros and cons.

Theres a constant battle between your authentic self and the persona you present to everyone in public.

You might end up exhausted, burned out, and struggling financially, physically, and mentally.

“I’m Not Actually Sympathetic To Her Situation”: Person Doesn’t Donate PTO To Dying Coworker

Charity and empathy are all very well and good, but there have to be healthy boundaries.

You cant help others if you dont help yourself first, after all.

Human beings are also hardwired for empathy and community, not just personal gain.

“I’m Not Actually Sympathetic To Her Situation”: Person Doesn’t Donate PTO To Dying Coworker

And thatsawfulfor your health and longevity.

Pragmatism can be diplomatic.

It helps to consider the potential consequences your actions will have.

“I’m Not Actually Sympathetic To Her Situation”: Person Doesn’t Donate PTO To Dying Coworker

Not just the immediate ones but also second- and third-order effects, too.

Its very likely that theres going to be pushback.

The other employees might start thinking of the author as an uncaring, unempathetic individual.

“I’m Not Actually Sympathetic To Her Situation”: Person Doesn’t Donate PTO To Dying Coworker

Subtle or overt ostracism.

Empathy is hugely important in an industry like healthcare.

They might miss out on potential promotions because theyre not as trusted as their other colleagues.

“I’m Not Actually Sympathetic To Her Situation”: Person Doesn’t Donate PTO To Dying Coworker

Being pragmatic doesnt necessarily mean being blunt or outwardly cold.

So, all things considered, the most pragmatic thing to do will depend on your life goals.

Its dystopian to have to rely on crowdsourced time off when you get diagnosed with a serious illness.

“I’m Not Actually Sympathetic To Her Situation”: Person Doesn’t Donate PTO To Dying Coworker

The reactions to the situation were mixed.

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“I’m Not Actually Sympathetic To Her Situation”: Person Doesn’t Donate PTO To Dying Coworker

“I’m Not Actually Sympathetic To Her Situation”: Person Doesn’t Donate PTO To Dying Coworker

“I’m Not Actually Sympathetic To Her Situation”: Person Doesn’t Donate PTO To Dying Coworker

“I’m Not Actually Sympathetic To Her Situation”: Person Doesn’t Donate PTO To Dying Coworker

“I’m Not Actually Sympathetic To Her Situation”: Person Doesn’t Donate PTO To Dying Coworker

“I’m Not Actually Sympathetic To Her Situation”: Person Doesn’t Donate PTO To Dying Coworker

“I’m Not Actually Sympathetic To Her Situation”: Person Doesn’t Donate PTO To Dying Coworker

“I’m Not Actually Sympathetic To Her Situation”: Person Doesn’t Donate PTO To Dying Coworker

“I’m Not Actually Sympathetic To Her Situation”: Person Doesn’t Donate PTO To Dying Coworker

“I’m Not Actually Sympathetic To Her Situation”: Person Doesn’t Donate PTO To Dying Coworker

“I’m Not Actually Sympathetic To Her Situation”: Person Doesn’t Donate PTO To Dying Coworker

“I’m Not Actually Sympathetic To Her Situation”: Person Doesn’t Donate PTO To Dying Coworker

“I’m Not Actually Sympathetic To Her Situation”: Person Doesn’t Donate PTO To Dying Coworker