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When youre raising smallchildren, having one parent stay at home can be a lifesaver.
Problems may arise when theSAH parentstarts feeling that their partner isnt pulling their weight.
Like this SAHM, who asked her husband for more help around the house.
When heaskedpeople online whether he was asking for too much, netizens gave him a reality check.
The key is equityensuring that both parents have time for themselves while also sharing responsibilities fairly, she emphasizes.
Everyonesmental healthand well-being matter.
Yet, the norm is usually different.
Recent researchshowsthat 71% of mothers still handle the vast majority of household tasks that require mental effort.
Djossa explains that some families might operate like this unconsciously.
Mothers, in turn, often have little leeway in how they can plan their days.
Moms time is often already prescribeddictated by the unending needs of the household and children, Djossa says.
One parent then becomes way less autonomous than the other one.
Dads usually have more flexibility and can choose how they spend their time.
Over time, mothers might start feeling burnt out, maybe even resent their partners.
Mental health issues like anxiety and depression might set in.
Such a family dynamic reinforces traditionalgender rolesas well.
This isnt sustainablenot for the individual, the partnership, or the family as a whole.
According to Djossa, a healthier approach is to recognize that both parents need rest, autonomy and care.
Both the mom and the dad need space to recharge.
According to Djossa, couples need to clearly recognize the real problem.