Not wanting to make things awkward, she didnt say no but was privately fuming about the imposition.
Webb goes on to highlight 5 assertiveness skills.
The first skill involves becoming aware of your feelings in the moment that a situation is happening.
Hard boundaries are non-negotiable.
Theyre the ones you have to respond to immediately and are unwilling to compromise on.
Soft boundaries are more like things youd be willing to compromise on.
Bored Pandareached out to psychologist Dr. Jordan Scotti ofWild Heart Psychologyto get her expert take on the matter.
He sounds more clueless than rude.
Likely, he assumes that if she didnt want company, shed say so.
Dr. Scotti added, Some people cant fathom others wanting alone time when they could be in good company.
Hes likely to miss hints and need direct and clear communication to understand what to do next.
We asked Dr. Scotti for one piece of advice shed offer the woman.
She advised the following, Be direct.
She rightly noticed that he touched a nerve when he requested to join her.
Hence, the tenderness and irritation that came on so strongly.
Dr Scotti concluded, Now is the perfect time to use assertiveness skills and clearly express what she desires.
She can do so in a friendly and kind manner.
And the sooner, the better!
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