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Lending and borrowing money between friends andfamilymembers hardly ever ends well.

The lender may also feel guilty or embarrassed to ask for it back.

This is what happened when a man lent his friend a fairly large sum to buy ahouse.

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He didnt want to pester her to repay it because he trusted her.

Unfortunately, his wife wasnt so convinced and felt that the friend wasnt going to give a cent back.

They had not repaid the money for a year and instead were throwing a huge 50th birthday party.

Two people at a table, one signing a document, suggesting a financial agreement or loan discussion.

The OP didnt feel like attending the event because she was sofrustratedabout the friends behavior.

To understand how to deal with touchy situations like this,Bored Pandareached out toDr.

He is a marriage and intimacy expert with over a decade of experience helping couples.

Text about a friend’s party conflict due to an unpaid £40k loan made a year ago for a house purchase.

Her husband also refused to take a stand against them.

Approaching this situation with empathy and care is the best way to move ahead without causing conflict.

Dr. Jon Dabachalso said that in this specific case, the couple needs to get radically honest.

Text image discussing a woman’s lavish 50th party and her business class holiday, raising concerns about financial grooming.

It seems clear that the husband was more worried about preserving hisfriendshipthan reducing his wifes anxiety.

Hopefully, they both have an open discussion about the matter and attempt to understand each others perspectives better.

Or else they may never end up getting the money back or their peace of mind.

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