Hes a binge drinker, going on benders for days or weeks, during which hes insensible.
But I quickly learned that the stress of holidays and birthdays triggers Art, leading to numerous ruined occasions.
Eventually, I put my foot down and stopped inviting him to events.
Despite our issues, Art and I are on reasonably good terms.
We talk occasionally about the kids, and sometimes we share memes.
Since I had full custody of the kids, I saw Eddie often, and we became close.
I cook for him, bake him cakes, buy him gifts, and take him out.
He attended my wedding and was in our family pictures.
Hes met my new in-laws.
Ive always tried to check that Eddie feels celebrated and included when hes with us.
However, Eddie and I have increasingly had friction, often about Art.
Whenever Art is sober for a while, Eddie believes hes cured.
My point is, his sobriety is fragile, and you cant count on it.
He might never be cured.
I assumed Eddie understood this, as Ive never been nasty about Art.
Its been a few days, and Eddie hasnt responded.
Eddie is angry with me and still hasnt replied to my message.
Im hurt that Eddie would think this of me.
Art is doing better, and Eddie is spending more time with him.
Im not Eddies daughter.
Perhaps this arrangement has run its course.
Ask yourself: Does continuing this close relationship with Eddie bring you more joy than stress?
Or does it feel like its becoming one-sided or harmful to your well-being?
You dont have to make a definitive decision right away.
Maybe try scaling back your efforts for a whileinvite Eddie to events but let him take more initiative.
Observe how the relationship feels when you give yourself a bit more space.
This way, you leave the door open while protecting your emotional energy.
Ultimately, its about finding a balance that feels respectful to both you and Eddie.
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