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I (53F) have four children.
My BIL just asked to collect them and take them to a family lunch with his mum and cousins.
My DH passed away two and a half years ago after a two-year battle with cancer.
My husband was hurt, but being non-confrontational, he just asked me to take him home.
I asked that we be included in future gatherings.
They only visited him on his sickbed a few times.
At his funeral, they attended but left abruptly without speaking to me or the kids.
That same afternoon, they blocked me on social media.
When I asked why, they told me I was no longer considered part of the family.
Now, theyve decided they want to see the children.
BIL asked to take them to a family lunch but said I am not welcome.
This aligns with how I was raisedvaluing family and sticking togetherwhich is what I want for my kids.
But excluding me feels cruel.
The kids arent keen on going without me.
She has started telling people how lonely she is.
I ended up going to the local shops and returning after an hour to pick up the kids.
The kids refused to go, saying they wanted to stay with me.
Experts Advice
This is a really painful situation, and I can see why youre struggling.
You want your kids to have family, but these people have treated you (and them) poorly.
Youre being a good mom by putting their emotional well-being first.
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