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My (40F) father (62M) was diagnosed with cancer last year.
He also has issues with his liver, legs, and lungs.
My parents divorced when I was 25.
On the other hand, my father fell in love and started living a full, happy life.
I tried to be supportiveI even gave him money and bought him groceries when he needed them.
His relationship didnt last, but hey, there are plenty of single women out there, right?
I got married in 2020 and had my son that same year.
The first thing he said when he arrived was, What a tiny flat you have.
He spent a month in the hospital and attempted therapy.
Last year, he met a woman, but I dont know any details about when or where.
One day, he called and said he wanted to visit us with his friend.
He didnt ask if she could comehe just brought her along.
I thought maybe he had finally found someone nice and caring because she seemed okay.
They planned to move in together, but the problem was that my father was sick and couldnt work.
He received some social assistance, but it wasnt much.
I got pregnant with our second child in July.
I was stunnedjust a few days earlier, I had spoken to him, and he hadnt mentioned anything.
So, I told him he was no longer welcome in our lives and cut all contact.
Or should I be the bigger person and help him?
You are not responsible for his choices or his situation.
Its okay to prioritize yourself, your husband, and your children.
Guilt is natural, but ask yourself: would continuing this relationship bring more harm than good?
If cutting contact brings you peace, then its the right decision.
Stay firm in your boundaries.
You dont owe him what he was never willing to give you.
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