Weve had several breaks over the years, but recently, our issues have come flooding back.
To reconnect, we decided to each plan two activities to surprise each other.
Yesterday was the first activity, which was supposed to take place at my place.
I expressed that I found this a bit frustrating, but it was what it was.
I dont feel just a little bad.
Im home, out of work, and that feels minimizing.
The way she speaks to me feels condescending and school-like, as if shes lecturing me.
I feel like I cant say anything without her feeling attacked or going on the defensive.
So, AITA for feeling this way?
What should I do about this situation?
How can I express my feelings without her feeling like Im attacking her?
Its completely normal to feel this way when theres tension in a friendship thats been through ups and downs.
If youre frustrated, hurt, or confused, those emotions are valid.
This approach can help reduce defensiveness and foster a more constructive dialogue.
Boundaries arent about shutting someone out; theyre about creating space for both parties to feel respected.
If certain topics or behaviors consistently trigger conflict, consider setting clear boundaries around them.
This could mean agreeing to give each other space during disagreements or pausing discussions when emotions are running high.
Friendships should be a source of support and positivity, even if there are occasional disagreements.
Ask yourself if this relationship is bringing you more joy or more stress lately.
If it feels consistently draining, it might be time to consider whether this friendship is serving your well-being.
Its okay to take a break or even end a friendship if its negatively affecting your mental health.
They might help you see things from a different angle or give advice on how to handle the situation.
Having someone to discuss this with can also provide emotional support as you figure out your next steps.
It sounds like you care deeply about this friendship, and thats why its causing you so much distress.
Remember, relationships are a two-way street.
Both of you should probably feel heard and respected for the friendship to thrive.
Be patient with yourself and take time to consider what feels right for you.
Its okay to prioritize your own emotional well-being.
Whatever you decide, trust that youre doing whats best for you, and thats what matters most.
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