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In an ideal world, our partners would never do a thing thatembarrassesus.
This boyfriend kept embarrassing his girlfriend with his poorrestaurant etiquette.
After all, who hasnt been confused about which fork theyre supposed to use while at a fancy restaurant?
In fact, people have differing opinions about whats okay and not okay to do at restaurants.
Last year, YouGovaskedAmericans what restaurant behaviors are a no-no for customers.
In essence, eating out shouldnt be a difficult thing.
Why is this like this, and why you dont get that at Wendys.
Pop Sugars Taylor Andrewscallsthis menu sleuthing.
I rarely have to experience order regret, she writes.
It isnt about being a control freak, its simply knowing what to ask for.
Psychologists call this the spotlight effect.
Researchshowsthat we overestimate the attention others pay us by 50%.
But we also get embarrassed on behalf of others; our partners, for example.
Thats what researchers call the vicarious spotlight effect.
Researchers havefoundthat the successes of our partners boosts our self-esteem.
We alsoget more embarrassedwhen it happens in front of strangers or acquaintances, not close family members orfriends.
Perhaps we really are thinking about ourselves too much.
Check out the results:
