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Youve probably heard it before, but the very best revenge is a life well lived.
If youre happy and healthy and in a greatrelationship, thats the biggest victory right there.
This might not be the healthiest way forward.
An anonymous person went viral after asking the AITAH online community foradviceon a particularly sensitive situation in their relationship.
Well update the article as soon as we hear back from them.
However, its one that needs to be madedependingon the situation.
Are you truly compatible, not only in your day-to-day living, but also in terms of your values?
Sit down and picture what your future life will look like with your partner.
Envision that relationship both in good times and in bad.
Do you like what you see?
According to Lewandowski, the couple needs to take the time to evaluate the relationship early on.
That way, both people will be aware of any potential red flags.
See them for who they are now, well before youre planning a wedding.
Compatibility counts… is this the punch in of relationship you always wanted?
Traumatic experiences can shape you.
And its completely valid to feel however you feel about having suffered in the past.
Depending on how traumatic those events were, you may need to reach out to amental healthprofessional.
They cant wave a magic wand during your sessions and make all of your issues go away.
Therapy, real therapy, requires a lot of hard, emotional, and often uncomfortable work.
Maybe theyve been so hurt by them in the past that they want revenge.
Perhaps they never got the closure they wanted.
Or they might still crave their approval even though they know its not healthy.
Or it could be a combination of different reasons.
But this is all speculation.
Feeling a twinge of jealousy sometimes is normal.
Of course, were all human, and this can happen accidentally.
However, it becomes an issue if theyre constantly thinking about them, whether fondly or in anger.
This sends the message that you might not be your partners main priority.
Having a few open and honest chats about the state of the relationship can help you work through things.
Another fundamental part of having these mature conversations involves actively listening to your significant other.
Whats their side of the story?
Whats their interpretation of whats been happening in your relationship?
Hear them out instead of just waiting for your turn to speak.
Relationships require mutual respect, patience, and looking for compromises.
Its supposed to be an ongoing dialogue, not a monologue, vent, or sermon.
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