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FOMOis a phenomenon thats not just for experiences and events.
It can apply to relationships as well.
And this is exactly what happened tothis man.
He met his high school crush again after several years.
He was already engaged.
So, he asked the Internet what to do in this situation.
Should he leave his fiancee and pursue hishigh school crush?
Or should he forget her, get married, and live happily ever after?
Read on to find out how people gave this guy a reality check.
So why the switch-up?
If you say youre happy in your current relationship, why look for other options?
Well, the first thing is that the guy ran into his longtime crush from high school.
This is a classic case of Old flames die hard.
Psychotherapist Lori Gottliebwritesthat when it comes to high school crushes and relationships, its most likely about a fantasy.
Its why so-calledfirst lovesimpact us more than subsequent relationships.
This is one reason forgetting a first love is difficult.
Our brains remember the neurochemical high associated with it and want that experience back.
Once he actually pursued her and found out what she really was like, the fantasy was dead.
He describes how she onlyused him for his moneyand potentially even cheated.
Relationship experts recommend figuring out what exactly seems wrong.
relationship expert Dr. Gery Karantzas from Deakin University toldABC Australia.
That entails figuring out whether your partner has any faults or if you just set the bar really high.
When people find themselves at a relationship crossroads, Theresa Herring, LMFT,advisesasking yourself some questions.
First, do your values differ too much?
Does one partner want kids and the other doesnt?
If so, there might be a fundamental incompatibility.
Also, what does it take for you to want to work on this relationship?
For example, a partners behaviors are not something you might control.
If you dont see a way to work it out, itmight be a dealbreaker.
The truth is that theres no knowing if that other relationship will make you happy.
Unfortunately, taking such risks as he did rarely pays off.
Just like Sara, the partner goes ahead and just moves on.
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