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Many people see gettingengagedas making a lifelong commitment.
So it can be absolutely heartbreaking when an engagement doesnt work out.
And it can be even more painful to watch your former fiance move on within months.
One womanreached outto Reddit detailing how she found herself being pressured to attend theweddingof her ex and her cousin.
Sure, it can work.
But only if everyone involved is genuinely on great terms and theres zero residual weirdness.
This is possible, especially with exes of the distant past, but rare.
On the flip side, Megan says there are plenty of risks associated with inviting an ex.
Even if the bride or groom is chill about it, not all the guests may be.
And if the current partner isnt 100% on board, then its a definite no go.
So how can wedding guests respectfully turn down an invitation if they dont feel comfortable attending?
You are always allowed to say no to a wedding invite, the expert shared.
Megan says the key is to be kind but firm.
Try something like: Thank you for the invitation, I really appreciate it.
However, after a lot of thought, Ive decided its best for me to sit this one out.
I hope its a beautiful day, and I wish you all the best.'
You dont owe a full explanation or a debate, she explained.
Set the boundary and stick to it.
If family pushes back, just repeat the message: This is what I need to do for myself.
Theyll get over itespecially once the weddings over and the drama dies down.
The expert then provided some advice for anyone who might be in a similar situation.
So first, acknowledge that it hurts, and thats valid.
But dont dwell on it.
Instead of spiraling, use this as a reason to refocus on yourself, she recommends.
Mute their name on socials if you have to (and havent already).
Avoid the what ifs and focus on the what nows.
Then, keep moving forward.
Remind yourself that their wedding isnt a reflection of your worth.
Protect your peace, trust your gut, and never feel bad for setting boundaries.
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