Thats exactly what this woman felt when she inherited hergrandmaspossessions.
She doesnt seem to understand how tough it might be for the OP to do so.
Thats whyBored Pandareached out toJo McRogersto better understand how to handle such a complicated situation.
Jo told us that often we overlook theemotionsbehind our decisions.
The symbolism of keeping/releasing any given item needs to be understood and then shared with those objecting.
Use a respectful problem-solving approach, explore any middle ground that can honor the symbolism.
On the other hand, her girlfriend did not take the time to understand her emotions.
The OP was worried that herrelationshipwould end over the issue, and sought help from her friends.
We askedJo McRogersif there was a timeline for how long people should hold onto preciousheirlooms.
She said that the assigned emotional value of items can change over time by the one who received it.
If the item still holds a purpose or connection, then it might be helpful to keep it.
If the item becomes an obligation, then it might be time to release it.
Too often, grievers feel they need to defend or rationalize their grief, Jo shared.
The poster is doing her best to cherish her grandmas memory and treat her possessions with care.
Its truly a shame that her girlfriend does not seem to understand that.
What do you think the OP should say to her girlfriend and do in this pop in of situation?
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