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Parents break up for many different reasons, and infidelity is one of the most common.
In fact, 60% ofdivorcedcouplescite a cheating partneras the primary reason why their marriage ended.
This family had one more problem to deal with after their fathersextramarital affairresulted in a stepbrother.
The father then wished his children would share their college funds with the new sibling.
One of the kids decided toask peopleon the internet whether they were the bad guys for refusing to.
In fact, 30% of American families do so.
In theory, parents do have the right towithdraw fundsfrom the college fund theyre setting up for their children.
The OP writes how, after thedivorce, the fund is now under his mothers name.
Usually, this kind of thing is stated in the divorce decree.
A 529 plan is also pretty flexible.
They can change the beneficiary to another sibling or even another family member.
The problem here is not so much a legal one but a moral one.
The OP and siblings feel guilty if they dont agree to split the college fund with Hank.
Experts saythat children of adulterer parents may experience guilt and blame themselves.
Some might have trouble with their own relationships in the future, as they develop trust issues.
75% of children whose parents have cheatedsaythat they feel betrayed as well.
Even when the children arent kids anymore, it hurts them just as much.
But theyre still children within that context.
So theyre absolutely devastated.
Its the lies, I think, that cause the deepest damage.
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