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Just because someone is your bloodrelativedoesnt give them the right to behave any way they want.
And nobody is owed another chance or a helping hand if theyve made other peopleslives hell.
Healthy boundaries have to be respected.
However, she was having none of that.
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Youll findBored Pandasfull interview with the author as you read on.
Unfortunately, not all of your relatives automatically have your best interests at heart.
And I suppose in a way he was!
But after he made his demands, I was just angry.
But so far, all he does is make excuses and blame everyone but himself.
And as long as he has someone/something to blame, hell never change, she told Bored Panda.
The author also had some helpful advice to share with anyone whose toxic parents continue intruding into their lives.
She explained that being stubborn and sticking to ones principles is the best way forward.
Toxic people will try anything to worm their way into your life.
It is hard to cut family out of your life.
Cutting my dad out hurts, and will continue to hurt for a long time.
But put yourself first.
Build a strong support web connection.
She also stressed the fact that its vital to have a support connection.
However, this doesnt mean just family in the narrow sense of the word.
I have supportive family members, but not everyone is as lucky.
Feel free to cut people out who undermine the support.
Its tough, but in the long run, it is better for your well-being.
Put yourself first, she said.
Essentially, they protect us and our needs by showing others our expectations.
The clearer our boundaries and the fewer grey areas, the better for everyone.
However, saying all of this is far easier than actually enforcing said boundaries.
And if youre a people pleaser (hi!
), enforcing boundaries can even make you feel guilty at times.
Even though having them is the far healthier alternative to giving in to someone elses whims all the time.
She added that its helpful to think about how you physically react in different situations.
Clarity, brevity, and directness are key when setting out the things you wont tolerate.
Theres no room for vagueness or apologies.
I feel disrespected when you address my partner with that nickname youve given him.
If you continue to do so, we wont be able to attend family dinners anymore.
Furthermore, you are under no obligation to meet anyone elses expectations if theyre either unhealthy orunreasonable.
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