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Many people want their wedding day to be special and memorable.
Most often, that requires some serious financial commitment.
According toThe Knot, the average cost of a wedding in the U.S. in 2023 was $35,000.
Interestingly, some couples choose the crowdfunding route.
One person took to social mediato sharesuch a wedding plan made by their acquaintances.
Curious whether this is the norm, the OP asked other Redditors their opinion.
Read our conversation below!
I totally get having a honeymoon or home improvement fund in your registry, the OP says.
That is what seems to irk the OP the entitlement.
I dont want to work either, but I am responsible for my own life.
There are options for being on a budget.
A courthouse or someones backyard with pizza and beer is totally respectable.
There is a small update, however.
The bride and groom apparently decided to postpone the wedding until next year.
The OP tells Bored Panda they will not be attending.
The couple also made a similar post announcing their pregnancy.
The big debate here is whether its tacky to crowdfund a wedding or not.
Some people might say that, in this economic climate, thats perfectly reasonable.
And some etiquette experts agree, saying that couples of the current generation are in a different financial situation.
So, the guests should be understanding and more empathetic towards their situation.
Etiquette evolves to meet the needs and the sensibilities of the current generation, Manners Mentor Maralee McKeesays.
And this is a way that its evolving.
She advises couples to be subtle about it and not include asking for donations in the invitations.
Dont invite over 100 if you cant afford it just because thatll bring in more donations.
Because some couples choose to use sites like GoFundMe, it can come across as worse than tacky.
Its also very likely that at least some friends or family members get offended on some level.
It might seem that the reasons above are not enough.
Family and friends usually contribute to the wedding anyway.
Another etiquette expert, William Hanson,saysthat asking for money might come across as too cold and transactional.
If you cant afford to get married, dont get married.
They recommend presenting the idea as an alternative option to gifts.
Its no secret that weddings are costly, and the guests will be aware of that.
Dont forget to be transparent.
The guests will appreciate it if they can check where the money actually went.
Couples can make that portion of the budget available to those who wish to contribute.
The commenters did not hesitate to shame the couple
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