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Infidelity is incredibly painful, and nobody wants to experience it.
A Redditor,ParticularLibrary618, recently learned that his wife cheated on him 20 years ago.
After receiving the news, the husband left her, saying he wanted to divorce.
Surprisingly, more than half of people who cheated willingly confessed to their spouses.
8% of them admitted only when asked, accused, or caught accidentally.
Bored Pandareached out to therapist and mediatorAmanda Pikalato learn more about the intricacies of infidelity.
Being honest is always what is best.
Cheating is never okay and yet, cheating happens for a reason.
And to get to address the root cause of the affair, you better address the affair.
At the top of the list are lack of love, neglect, and sexual desire.
Other times, it depended on the situation.
Which, in most cases, it doesnt.
Should the person who cheated have a second chance?
Infidelity doesnt always mean a marriage is over, especially if the person at fault is truly remorseful.
When asked if the person who cheated should have a second chance, Pikala enthusiastically agreed.
With enough hard work from both partners, its absolutely possible to heal and repair after an affair.
However, couples should not forget that repairing a relationship requires a lot of effort.
She notes that partners have to put in a ton of hard work.
The therapist also kindly shared some advice on recovering from infidelity.
Discuss different boundaries that would help you feel safer while you two heal and repair.
Nobody wants to feel like they need to babysit their partner.
She also added, Stay vulnerable.
Share the pain and fear whenever it comes up for you.
If you come out swinging, theyll match that and swing back.
Thats not hard for your partner to understand.
But what is hard to respond to is big, scary, and threatening anger.
Getting cheated on is truly a gut-wrenching experience.
Some people advised trying to fix it
Others sympathized and shared their own stories
