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Dealing with parents when youre an adult can be a challenge.
Although youre all grown up, some things never change.
Strained relationships,unresolved childhood conflicts, or clashes in values can make communication difficult.
These things can be even more challenging in the context of different cultures.
One woman shared a story onr/pettyrevengea few days ago.
Frustrated over the constant communication breakdown, she left his electricity bills unpaid.
Was her little rebellious revenge deserved?
Bored Pandaalso contacted the author of the post, pritachi.
She was kind enough to provide more context to the story.
Read on to find our short interview with her below!
Some readers were wondering how that cultural context influences ones relationship with parents.
The woman told Bored Panda her personal experience on the subject.
Honestly, the cultural differences arent that huge, she says.
Mostly, I would hesitate to play big pranks and/or inconvenience my parents too much for any reason.
That stems from a cultural need to respect my elders, but also from my love for them.
Pritachi tells us how that respect is also a two-way street.
It wont even be expected of me.
At least not in my family.
Prof. Dr. of Psychology N.K.Chadhawrites: Respect for elders is a major component in Indian culture.
Theyre revered for their wisdom and knowledge.
Yet, examples like pritachis show that the Indian culture is not a monolith.
People started to suggest she go no-contact with her dad.
Others labeled him abusive.
That was before she edited her post to provide some context.
But pritachi isnt quick to demonize those people.
I wouldnt say they stepped over the line, she says.
I just find it odd that people easily jump to extreme conclusions over one aspect of their behavior.
My story only told of one small quirk of my dads personality.
Its not his whole personality, its not even a major part of him.
All anyone knew was that he has terrible phone etiquette and nothing else.
Just from that small piece of information, people decided he was an abusive and deadbeat father.
It could not be farther from the truth.
I think people need to realize that humans arent one-dimensional and every one of us has a multifaceted personality.
We shouldnt vilify anyone over such limited knowledge, the author of the post adds.
The woman highlights the importance of communicating with your parents.
It may just resolve some of the issues, she observes.
As in most conflicts, talking out your issues with the other person is the best path to resolution.
Thats another recommendation that she has for people who have a hard time communicating with their parents.
The author of the post also provided some context while answering questions from commenters
