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Unfortunately, the reality is that not all parents are capable of raising their children well.
They might be more interestedin their own livesthan their kids.
They may havedeep-seated issuesthat prevent them from caring for others.
They might make their kids dependent on them to an unhealthy extent.
Or they only take care of their kids because they have something to gain from it.
Youll find the story, as well as all of its updates, as you read on.
Bored Pandagot in touch with the author of the massively viral story, redditoru/EmRaEv.
Scroll down for our full interview with the OP.
The fact is that not all parents see their children as a priority.
Ive been living with my dad, and I just feel healthier.
I wake up at 8 am instead of 1 pm.
I eat three meals a day at a table, instead of snacking and rotting in bed.
I take regular walks outside.
My creativity is back, so I can enjoy drawing and writing again.
Im finally learning how to drive, cook, clean, and everything else Im far behind on.
Im finally learning how to be a person.
According to the OP, not everyone realizes that someone in their life is controlling how they think.
When my mother would lie to me, I would always believe her 100%.
Her lies sound the same as her truths.
Its impossible to tell the difference when her lies are the truth in her reality.
It never [occurred] to me that she might be lying to me because why would she?
Why would your own mother lie to you?
Then I remember who she is.
What kind of person she is.
But only after Ive already given her what she wants, she explained.
Tell others what youre going through, especially if it doesnt seem that bad.
Someone will hear your story and realize what you have been made blind to, she said.
Its why she turned me against her boyfriend, who, Im realizing now, was a great guy.
She made him send angry messages and call my friends family.
She tried to make me scared of him so I would stay away from him.
But then I answered one of his calls, just to know what she told him.
I dont have the words to describe it.
The OP shared some advice with anyone whos found themselves in a similar situation as she was.
No one deserves to feel so miserable all of the time.
She has been like this her entire life.
The bond between you two is artificial.
If she truly cared about you, when was the last time she gave you a gift?
Were you mad recently?
Do you feel uneasy when she walks [into] the room?
You deserve so much better than her.
You deserve to be happy.
I would be overjoyed with a mother that just left me alone.
Id understand if she just couldnt be a good parent and kept her craziness to herself.
Anything better feels unrealistic, like a fantasy.
There are just some things you cant think about until youre ready, she explained her stance on everything.
So, in my experience, I know that a child should feel loved, trusted, and safe.
Anything less is a fundamental failure on the parents side.
The teenager found herself in a very tough situation.
She shared a ton of additional context about just how bad things had gotten at home.
The OP also answered a lot of the questions that other people had.
I was raised to be dependent on my mother.
I wasnt even taught to think for myself.
Im just now starting to undo all the damage shes done.
The author stated that shes been in therapy for around a year.
She also wrote that she has depression and has been diagnosed with c-PTSD (complex post-traumatic stress disorder).
However, the situation is far from grim.
Hes going to help me get my life together and confirm Im successful.
First and foremost, good parents need to provide the basics.
Thats the stuff many of us think about first.
However, equally as important (if not more so) are a childs emotional needs.
This includes physical contact that is vital for a childs development (e.g.
hugs, touch, etc.
Parents are responsible for acting like grownups.
Its a long and painful process that requires a ton of introspection and possibly the help of a counselor.
You have a right to prioritize your own needs.
You have a right not to meet other peoples expectations when they are unhealthy or unreasonable, she said.
Whats more, children should not feel like theyre the only ones responsible for fixing their parents problems.
Moreover, boundaries are an absolute necessity if parents shame you for making choices that give you more autonomy.
Many readers were rooting for the author.
They shared their support and gave her some advice
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