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Fear is a very normal, core part of being a human being.
Pretending that were notafraidor that theres no danger might not be the healthiest way to go through life.
Its something that allparentsshould keep in mind.
He was kind enough to answer our questions, and youll find our full interview with him below.
you could do it.
Just try it once.
Instead, use negative reinforcement.
Heres how you do it.
Image credits:dariusryankadem
Now, lets look at how this is done.
Shes afraid of going down the slide.
Her stutter is another sign of her discomfort.
Dont be afraid, itll be fine, Ill give you a sticker if you do it.
All of which are great examples of invalidating her fear.
I want her to fully articulate her fear.
Are you worried about something that you think is going to…?
Im worried Im gonna face-plant into the rocks.
I think that might happen if you were leaning forward, youd face-plant.'
This is called paradoxical intervention.
Then I offer an alternative, not just through words, but demonstrating.
But what if you lean backwards, like this?
That way you wont face-plant.
And this non-intrusive approach enabled her to creatively come up with a different solution.
I didnt overpraise her.
Firstly, I was receptive to her state.
I didnt jump in with preconceptions.
I stepped in as a problem solver.
The key difference lies in the approach, he said.
Ultimately, the real question is about intention.
We asked Ryan-Kadem for some advice on this.
Becoming an effective communicator comes with challenges that can disrupt meaningful parent-child interactions.
Inconsistent messaging creates confusion, and time constraints reduce opportunities for open dialogue.
Additionally, developmental differences impact a childs ability to understand and express themselves.
And the key skill required for observation is active listening.
This foundation of trust strengthens their attachment to you and enables you to clearly define your boundaries and expectations.
He told us that he is a big believer in reinforcing learning through reflection and sharing.
And the best way to learn something is to teach it (which we completely agree with).
What bridges information and transformation is implementation.
In short, negative reinforcementstrengthensa behavior by stopping, removing, or avoiding a negative outcome.
In other words, you take away something that a person finds undesirable.
This is in contrast to punishments (aversive stimuli) or rewards (positive reinforcement).
If something desirable is being added, then it is positive reinforcement.
If something aversive is being taken away, then it is negative reinforcement, Verywell Mind explains.
Typically, specific phobias appear when a child is around 7 years old.
Phobias can impact a persons day-to-day life quite deeply.
They also have good mental and emotional health, do well academically, and are socially well-adjusted.
In contrast, authoritarian parents are incredibly strict at home, but they dont communicate openly with their children.
Kids who grow under the shadow of authoritarians are usually anxious, lack initiative, or may rebel.
Ryan-Kadem has a significant following online.
On TikTok alone, 230.1k people follow his account, and his videos have amassed a whopping 4.3m likes.
This particular video about negative reinforcement that were featuring today got 1.6m views and over 235.6k likes.
The dad also has 484k followers on Instagram.
Through his videos, he helps people overcome their parenting struggles by employing effective communication.
What are your thoughts on all of this, dear Pandas?
Have you ever tried negative reinforcement?
Whatparentingstyle is your go-to approach?
How do you tackle situations where your kids, family, or friends are dreadfully afraid of something?
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