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Christmas is a fun time to meet family and enjoy all of thetraditionsthat make it so special.
Unfortunately, thats not the case for everyone, especially first responders.
This is what a 911 worker faced at Christmas time, but her in-laws couldnt seem to understand.
The holiday season also puts a lot of pressure onemergency workers.
Research shows that accidents often occur at higher rates during festivities.
Thats why first responders need to be present even if other people might be in a celebratory mood.
It can be incredibly stressful for them to have to deal with and navigate all of this.
The womans husband also did not understand her point of view.
An important thing Dan mentioned is: your spouse is your teammate in navigating the in-law relationship.
To foster collaboration instead of defensiveness, share your feelings constructively.
This also made the OP feel bad and worried about whether she was letting her in-laws down.
Dantold us that its important to keep the focus on your feelings, not blame.
Then, invite your spouse to problem-solve with you.
After speaking with your spouse, its your responsibility, not theirs, to approach your in-laws.
Lead with vulnerability to create a space for understanding.
Dan OConnor mentioned that vulnerability disarms defensiveness and sets the stage for boundaries.
Then, invitecollaboration, leading with their needs.
How you treat them is about you.
If you want growth from others, then you grow.
If you want understanding from others, then you understand.
There is no way around this.
Spending time with ones family during the holidays is supposed to be a joyful experience.
Unfortunately for the OP, this is exactly what she was faced with.
Hopefully, she later had an honest talk with her husband and they found an easy compromise.
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