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Realfriendship, at its core, is reciprocal.
Its a two-way street.
You offer respect and you get respected in return.
Youre ready to supportyour palswhen they need it and theyre willing to do the same for you.
So, the author refused to help with the planning, which sparked a lot of drama.
Of course, that decision (whether to help or not) ultimately lies with the friend.
But if they say no, its a perfectly reasonable response.
You have to respect theirboundariesand their decision.
Real friends stick by your side despite the ups and downs.
However, fair-weather friends only want to be around you when things are nice and easy.
Theyre nowhere to be found when you have it tough.
False friends are also unwilling to celebrate your successes with you.
They might get envious or jealous when youre successful.
If they constantly disrespect your boundaries, they are essentially disrespecting you.
A huge part of being a good friend is honesty.
Being a friend doesnt mean automatically agreeing with whatever the rest of your social group says or thinks.
Sure, youre there to support them, and youll have their backs when they need it.
But you should not give up your individuality, wants, and needs just to be liked.
However, there are some core things to keep in mind when asking for help.
For one, youre actually asking for help, not demanding that your family and friends help you.
Furthermore, you should be aware that they might do things slightly differently than you might have envisioned.
Whats more, their refusing to help is perfectly fine.
Its not the end of the world.
Telling someone that they were not selected to be a bridesmaid is crushing.
So be gentle with your words, and give a shot to reassure her about your friendship.
Spend some time thinking about how you will phrase this decision.
At the end of the day, your goal isnt to hurt her feelings.
Dont stoop so low as to hurt anyones feelings intentionally.
Heres how they interpreted the situation
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