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Being a good friend means being there for them, no matter what.
However, you wont really know what their actual priorities are until thefriendshipgets put to the test.
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Its just 6 people now, and we dont want anything extraordinary, u/Disastrous-Day-3751 told Bored Panda.
The fact that the story went so viral on the internet came as a bit of a shock.
I did not expect the story to be this interesting to Reddit.
Im grateful for the reactions as it gave us a lot of insight about toxic relationships.
The OP also had some practical advice for anyone feeling overwhelmed and stressed out from organizing their own wedding.
The smaller, the better!
Some family members were a bit grumpy after that, but after some weeks, it was okay.
Theyre with us through thick and thin!
Now, dont get us wrong: its vital that you plan and prepare to welcomea doginto your life.
The more you sort out all the details, the easier the homecoming entire process will be.
In our experience, ultimatums rarelyif ever workin relationships.
Nobody should feel like theyre pressured into doing anything they dont want to do.
However, thats easier said than done.
Happy and healthy relationships are built on a foundation of mutual trust, respect, and communication.
The former are all about force, warnings, and demands.
The latter are about setting expectations and guidelines for (in)appropriate behavior.
Ultimatums areparticularly harmfulin relationships because they undermine the sense of security and respect.
It can also lead to resentment, as well as insecurity.
Meanwhile, marriage and family therapist Andrea Dindinger, LMFT, has a similar view.
People make ultimatums when they feel powerless to change the other person.
In the meantime, overusing ultimatums can be likened to emotional abuse.
Boundaries are a farbetter alternativeto ultimatums because they are firm but flexible.
Thats the perspective of licensed counselor Elizabeth Fedrick.
She told Business Insider that most people dont respond well to ultimatums.
Because ultimatums are by nature demanding, they can backfire and create more harm than good in a relationship.
Therapist Daryl Appleton notes, however, that ultimatums do have a time and a place.
They can be useful in situations where someones behavior is harmful to them or the relationship itself.
Its when ultimatums are used for controlinstead of claritythat they can have a negative effect.
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