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When youve been withyour partnerfor years and years, it can hurt to contemplate breaking up with them.
Once trust has been broken, its hard to rebuild.
Internet user u/LifWestswent viralafter asking the r/AITAH community for advice on his love life.
Read on for the full story and the advice the internet had to share with the devastated man.
He was kind enough to share his insights with us.
Dr. Luster is the host of theMore Than a Feelingblog on Psychology Today and the founder ofInspirethought.
Stay centered by accepting whatever you are doing.
This is the ultimate.
We might think of overwhelm as flooded confluence.
Or in other terms, too many things at once to process, he explained in an email.
Dr. Lustershared a few examples of how people can do this.
One approach is practicing radical acceptance of our circumstances.
This allows us to take stock of reality rather than deny it.
Meanwhile, our self-talk is a very important aspect of our lives.
It provides perspective to not allow the shadow aspects of ourselves to criticize or to antagonize our realities.
What is it asking of me?
We need to take time for ourselves even in the midst of overwhelming circumstances.
This means perhaps going for a short walk, journaling, listening to music, or exercising.
Lusterfor his thoughts on how someone can get comfortable with being emotionally vulnerable around others.
He stressed that this can be tough.
That notion might also encourage us to hold empathy for both parties (ourselves and the other/s) involved.
Emotions arise from needs, thus the reason we are attempting to navigate relationships.
It is simply a way to get more comfortable in our own bodies when discussing emotions.
Dr. Lusteradvised that when we demonstrate our emotional vulnerability, we should use personal words.
For example: I feel this way.
This way, we allow others to see our perspective without putting them on the defensive.
According to the Cleveland Clinic, dealing withemotional stresscan take as few as 5 to 15 minutes per day.
Mutual respect… And the ability to be emotionally vulnerable without fear of judgment.
Of course, no relationship is ever perfect.
Everyone makes mistakes from time to time.
But relationships are all about learning from our mistakes and doing a bit better the next time around.
In this particular case, its entirely up to the author how he decided to move forward.
Were all personally responsible for our emotional health and the boundaries that we enforce.
And those boundaries can look wildly different for everyone.
For some individuals, knowing that their partners are put off by their crying is an instantred flag.
They want to be able to be vulnerable around them.
Again, everyone has different boundaries.
But without being upfront about them with your partner, you cant expect them to respect them.
Is there love, passion, playfulness, and fun in your life?
Are you getting what you want and need from your relationship?
The vital thing here is to be completely honest with yourself.
Sure, every relationship is going to have its ups and downs.
And that might mean remembering who you are as an individual, outside the confines of your relationship.
The authors story got a lot of attention online.
Many netizens supported him.
Heres what they said
However, some readers had a different interpretation of what happened.
Here are some of their reactions
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