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There are many different ways to be charitable.
you might volunteer your time and energy.
you could promote a cause near and dear to your heart.
Or you’re free to use your hard-earned money to pleasantly surprise a stranger.
For instance, if they were a particularly good server.
Redditor u/OttoBonz recently turned to the r/AITAH for their verdict aftera spot of dramaat a local restaurant.
The OP revealed how shed initially left a massive tip for the woman whod been waiting on her table.
However, after a slight hiccup, she slashed the tip to just a few dollars.
Read on for the full story, as well as what the internet had to say.
She was open about the fact that both she and the server could have probably handled the situation better.
Youll find our interview with the OP as you read on.
We usually dont stick around to see their reaction.
Its not about us, despite what others say, the redditor explained to us.
Weve been blessed and want to share that blessing.
We wanted to get the authors personal opinion on the signs of a good server.
But more than that, is kind and easy to talk to/connect with.
Thats what I really like when we go out to eat, redditor u/OttoBonz told us.
Im sure Ill catch a lot of flack for this one, but were Christian.
I feel the server and I both probably could have handled the situation better.
A lot of good points were pointed out to me from this post.
Some kindly, others not so kindly.
Its not just the quality of the service and the food that you have to take into account.
For example, tips are very uncommon in Japan but practically mandatory in many parts of the United States.
Forgetting to tip or not tipping generously is likely to get you a ton of odd looks.
Thats why its so important to research local customs before taking a trip somewhere.
As BBC Travelpoints out, tipping is ingrained in the national psyche and Americans take it very seriously.
Meanwhile, many servers feel entitled to larger and larger tips, even for average or substandard service.
Its a complex problem.
The countrys cultural attitudes and laws wont change overnight.
This way, theres a clear incentive to go beyond the call of duty.
Arguably, forced tipping is going to negatively impact the customer experience.
If its been a genuinely awful experience, a generous tip would only send the wrong message.
Why would you reward someone who ruined your night?
Its best to stay calm and not sound too accusatory.
Simply explain the situation and that you expect to be treated with basic respect.
Clear up the misunderstanding: theres always the possibility that you interpreted the situation wrong.
You also shouldnt expect perfect service every single time you go out to eat.
Servers are people, too: they get tired and they make silly mistakes from time to time.
Not to mention that some servers are still learning the ropes.
Generosity and charity should not come with preattached conditions.
But what do you think, dear Pandas?
What would you have done in this situation?
How do you approach tipping?
Whats the biggest tip youve ever left?
Share your thoughts in the comment section.
Some readers thought that the author did nothing wrong.
Check out the results:
