Period, saysClaudia Sokolova, ofThe Big Day events.
The influence of a family and the pressures they bring are astronomical, and its not the 60s anymore.
People get married because they want to, not because of cultural norms.
Sure, we adhere to them a lot of the time with weddings.
What it comes down to is the marriers values and boundaries, she explained.
Especially on a day thats about celebratingyourlove!
Valentina added that sometimes well-intentioned parents pressure their children so much that they cause immense anxiety.
Its your day, you should wear whatever you want.
Suki also says shes very familiar with dark wedding themes.
And theyre all GORGEOUS, she told Bored Panda.
The folks who read the Offbeat Wed blog come to us because they love all things nontraditional.
The dark wedding themes are endless at the Offbeat Wed blog!
As a wedding gift, a friend gifted them a dead coyote that had been hit by a car.
The couple buried it, and dug it up again on their first anniversary.
If they dont like your choices, thats their problem.
Its your day, youre paying for it.
If they dont like it they dont have to be there.
If they dont come over something so important to you, maybe your entire relationship should be evaluated.
You deserve respect and love on your day.
Not some estranged auntie in the corner giving you looks because your flowers werent her favorite color.
Its probably a projection of another feeling.
Perhaps theyre worried their relatives will think poorly of them, she explained.
Perhaps theyve invited their boss and want to make a good impression.
This might give you more clarity and help you create compromises that everyone loves!
It also helps to show them examples of how the theme has been executed beautifully!
Another option weve seen Offbeat Wed readers do is finance their own weddings entirely.
This puts them in a more comfortable position to brush off negative opinions.
Let them hear, see, and feel how excited you are about making your wedding your own!
Stand up for what you believe in.
You will always regret not listening to your intuition, Claudia told Bored Panda.
You will always regret making a decision based onsomeone elses happiness.
Weddings are a petri dish for family drama!
If youre dealing with it, weve written about it, and weve got your back.
Good luck and happy planning!
Valentina urges couples to never let someone else make them feel guilty about their wedding decisions.
Its understandable if youre feeling worried that your choice may be seen as selfish but it absolutely isnt.
