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Manyparentswant to spark their kids interest in something that they themselves wereor still areinterested in.
Should parents support their decision or encourage them to keep going?
Also, where is the line between forcing and encouraging?
These questions have likely run through the heads of manyparents.
The pressure is a symptom of a lack of emotional differentiation between the parent and their child.
And just because a child doesnt like something, doesnt mean it isnt worthwhile.
Few kids love brushing their teeth, but if they dont, they might end up with tooth decay.
Allow a child to complain about it and to feel upset, but hold the boundary.
Be utterly pleased with their efforts, and of course, explain why youre making them do it.
It can be good to loosen things up, bringing in humor and playfulness.
Its about respect and emotional autonomy, she said.
But also its about parents doing their job as leaders of their families.
But always doing what a child wants that doesnt go well for anyone.
A child really does feel accomplished and good about the fact that they were able to get through it.
That is another problem that tends to stand in the way of kids choosing an activity they enjoy.
In the OPs daughters case, it was cheerleading that her dads partner pressured her to take upon.
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